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Dating with Vitiligo – How to charm a Potential Date

Believe it or not, vitiligo has very little to do with dating. It’s often our mind that imprisons us whenever we think of approaching someone for a date. I have personally known many vitiligo fighters who have found the love of their lives because they were never hesitant to date the man/woman they liked. They could do so because they were confident and incredibly charming.

Some people are Naturals, so they’re able to charm people almost every waking second of their life. But, for the rest of us, the charm is more like a switch now we can learn to turn on or off as we need to. Start spending a little bit of time every single day, practicing below-mentioned tips. With time and practice, you’ll be able to gain access to many more opportunities in life, remaining unaffected by your outer appearance.

1. The power of the name.

One of the most effective ways to turn on the charm is to remember somebody’s name. It was Dale Carnegie who said there is nothing sweeter than the sound of one’s own name. Think about that for a second. Every day you probably hear at least a hundred different names, but it’s only when your name is mentioned that you feel a massive spike of pleasure in your brain.

If you can recall someone’s name when meeting him/her for the second time, you’ll instantly see more charming happening. A secure memory trick that you can use to remember anyone’s name is to immediately link their name to a specific image in your head.

2. Compliments don’t hurt.

The most part our brains are hard-wired to care almost exclusively about ourselves and for our own well-being. Every human being on the planet has an ego. Even those who claim to be selfless still want to talk about themselves and their achievements. So, after you meet someone, one of the easiest ways to instantly seem more charming is to use a compliment to get the person to talk about themselves.

Imagine you just met Joe and you know that he’s terrific at video games. All that you have to do is to get him talking about himself. This psychological trick works well because it plays on the basic human need to feel important by stroking someone’s ego.

3. Keep things short.

If you look at James Bond or similar charming characters in Hollywood movies and really pay attention, you’ll see that whenever they talk they always keep things short, light, fun and enjoyable. A huge mistake that a lot of people make is going into too much detail about whatever it is that they’re talking about.

Fortunately, there is a trick that you can use to do this the next time you’re about to tell a huge story. To keep it short, all you have to do is to condense everything into one sentence.

4. It’s all about the energy.

A considerable part of being charming is your energy. You’ve probably heard someone say that they were getting a bad vibe from someone. The word vibe is just a way to describe a person’s energy. To instantly become more charming, you need to make sure that you’re putting out the right energy in your conversations.

Your energy is made of your body language, voice, tone and how you behave around people. To put out the right energy, you should be humble, but confident and positive, but not too positive.

5. Be like Bond

It was Confucius who said that the easiest way to learn something is through imitation. So, if you want to hone your charming skills, the easiest way to learn is by watching someone else do it and modeling your behavior after them. In case you didn’t notice, while growing up, you must have been emulating your parents and other people around you. This is the reason why people say you are the some of your closest friends or basically you are who you hang out with.

Everything, from body language to proper voice tonality, can be learned and emulated by watching charming people like James Bond. Just give it a try. It will work.

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