Many vitiligo fighters feel that being super likable and popular comes from unobtainable traits that belong only to a lucky few. But that’s not simply true. There are methods and techniques charismatic people use on a day-to-day basis that can massively increase your chances of getting pretty much anyone to like you and want to be around you.
So sit back, relax, and let’s take a look at seven mind tricks to make someone look beyond your vitiligo and like you.
1. Nod
Nodding your head during a conversation makes the other person more likely to agree with what you’re saying. When you nod your head as you speak, you convey that what you’re saying is true and desirable and people are more inclined to agree with you. So if you’re trying to persuade that special someone to go on a date with you, try nodding your head as you speak.
2. Ask for a favor
Psychologists at Japanese University carried out multiple studies where they discovered that getting people to do favors for you can increase your attraction. So far, you may have thought the other way around. But, asking someone for a favor signals them that you like them and you trust them. And the reasoning behind it is that when someone goes out of their way and does a favor for you, they subconsciously make reasons to justify why they are doing it.
3. Pay attention to your gesture
Opening your hands and palms during a conversation create trust and make people more likely to agree with you. Open Palm gestures make you come across as more friendly and likable whereas pointing can be seen as aggressive and in some cases rude.
4. Tap into their passion
This one is going to require you to be a bit of a Sherlock Holmes. So, when you talk to someone, try to figure out what makes them tick. Find out what they’re passionate about. Be interested in it and talk about it. People love talking about their passion and the beauty about this one is that you can keep the conversation flowing by just asking questions. They’ll do all the speaking and come away thinking that you are an exceptional conversationist.
5. Use their name
There is no sweeter sound to anyone in the world than the sound of their name. Using a person’s name whilst you’re chatting to them is an incredibly powerful trick. The reason for this is that it gives the other person a sense of validation.
Make sure it sounds natural. For example when you greet someone, instead of saying hi, how have you been? say, James, how have you been or what are you doing at the weekend. So, if you want people to like you more, try dropping their name into conversations as much as you can. Not too much though!
6. Make eye contact
You have to be quite careful with this trick. Maintain eye contact for around 60% of the conversation. But like we said, it is tricky, but if you can get it right, you will come across as interested, friendly and trustworthy and further increase your chances of getting someone to like you.
7. Mirror
This psychological technique is called Mirroring. They say imitation is the greatest form of flattery. And, in this case, that really is true. Just by mirroring someone’s movements posture and gestures, it will increase your chances of getting them to like you. The reasoning behind this is that by matching someone body language, you are basically saying I feel the same, and we’re on the same. Doing so will also make the other person be comfortable around you and look into your eyes with some familiarity.
So, if they lean in, you lean in. If they open their arm, you do that too. But, be careful not to make it obvious.