Do you feel insecure or get nervous when someone even mentions the word insecure? Up until meeting an attractive person without vitiligo, you were having a pretty good day. But, now you’re starting to question everything from the way you look to the accomplishments you’ve racked up. You even wonder if you were or will ever be discriminated due to your appearance.
Don’t worry; you are not alone. Many vitiligo fighters get insecure now and then. Besides, we are always here to help you out. In this blog, you’re about to learn how you can take your insecurities and use basic psychology to make them work for you.
1. Consider Insecurity as something normal
Most vitiligo fighters associate the word insecure with negative emotions and the main reason why people do this is because deep down we are all a little bit insecure. In fact, there is not a single person on the planet that is entirely secure. Most people with vitiligo think that insecurities hold no value when ironically, they hold more value than you can even imagine. If we take a moment to look at the psychology behind our insecurities, we will see that they are just messages broadcasted from the brain.
When your brain starts sending these signals, it is trying to say that it’s not sure of its ability to complete a task. It thinks it’s moving in the wrong direction or it is afraid that it might lose what it already has. So, rather than beating yourself up for feeling insecure, know that it’s human to feel insecure. Only after this, you can invest your time in figuring out what is causing your brain to send such messages.
2. Reassure yourself with the practice
The cool thing about insecurity is that it’s one of the most powerful sources of motivation that you have at your disposal. Once you understand that every feeling of insecurity that you experience is nothing but a message from your brain, you can override the insecurities by giving your mind reassurance. A more straightforward example to grasp is driving. When we first start driving a car, we experience a strong feeling of insecurity because our brain is telling us that it doesn’t feel comfortable driving. To reassure our mind, we can take driving lessons and spend time practicing in a parking lot. Maybe you feel extremely insecure in social settings because you spend way too much time thinking about how your vitiliginous skin looks. In this example, you need to reassure your mind that you can handle such situations and the best way to reassure your mind and eliminate the insecurities is to practice spending time in social situations.
3. Avoid quick fixes
Instead of taking action to overcome the insecurities, a lot of vitiligo fighters look for quick fixes which can lead you down a deep rabbit hole that you don’t want to get into. Some of the world’s most well-known billionaires started from nothing and grew their empires to unimaginable heights. You can do the same by taking one step at a time. This will only make you feel less anxiety and least insecure.
4. Come up with a plan
Feelings of insecurity can also come from not wanting to lose what you already have. Insecurities are easy to figure out, and with a little bit of self-reflection, you can quickly determine the root cause.
Next, come up with a detailed plan that will help you change whatever it is about yourself that will eliminate the insecurities. As long as your subconscious mind actually believes it, the plan will work. You’ll get some instant relief from the insecurities and even better than that. For example, if you are insecure about the way you look when people stare at you, just smile at them. This will either make them stop staring or have a quick chat with you about your vitiligo, which will eventually help you spread the word about a skin disorder too few people know about.